I know, some of you are now screaming, “THAT’S THE POINT, JERK!” Yeah, I know this, but along with that point is another point:
Many of the actions, attitudes, and behaviors we deem to be sexual harassment are basically common things most all of us are often doing to each other.
It usually happens at a time when you’re not expecting it. It usually happens at a time when you need it. It usually happens in such a way that it changes your mindset, if not for good, at least long enough to keep you from completely crashing.
When we appreciate the little things: the moments, the kismet, the feelings that fill us even if for a brief point in time, we start to see the unwritten poems all around us. The beauty in our lives. The beauty we sometimes take for granted.
I know I need to do a better job of seeing the beauty, but she helps me with that every day.
There’s no such thing as an undamaged person, but to understand someone else’s damage, to understand what they need, and to understand who you need to be in order to not add to that damage takes effort. A lot of effort. Effort that very few people are willing to put into a relationship.
This is really complicated. But it isn’t about who is damaging who, or what damage we all have. We have to start putting more effort into understanding ourselves, having patience with each other, and recognizing the things that truly matter in our world. There’s no one right answer, or easy answer, or magic pill.
I guess the side benefit is that if my acting career ever does take off maybe I can be famous, and anonymous at the same time, while hordes of other good-looking bald guys with facial hair get harassed with, “Hey! Aren’t you.. that guy?!” by mistake.
Sometimes nature takes its time
But everything has a day to die…
Randal: All those innocent contractors hired to do the job were killed! Casualties of a war they had nothing to do with. All right, look, you’re a roofer, and some juicy government contract comes your way; you got a wife and kids and the two-story in suburbia – this is a government contract, which means all sorts of benefits. All of a sudden these left-wing militants blast you with lasers and wipe out everyone within a three-mile radius. You didn’t ask for that. You have no personal politics. You’re just trying to scrape out a living.
Roofer: Well, I’m a contractor myself. I’m a roofer—Dunn and Ready Home Improvements—and speaking as a roofer, I can tell you, a roofer’s personal politics comes into play heavily when choosing jobs.
Disheartening to see another side to the history we have been taught, and understand that the United States might have actually been the bad-guy when it came to de-militarizing after World War II, and forced the cold war upon the world, instead of working toward making the world a better place.
Half of the people in my office go out for smoke breaks.
I've never found it to be fair that employers make accommodations for employees who are addicted to tobacco products, and it is widely accepted in our culture that these people get special treatment. Most other addicts wouldn't even be hired if it was known, except for coffee addicts, but you can have a coffee at your desk while working without polluting your work environment.
So, I have again began my practice of taking smoke breaks.
In my case, they involve walking around the parking lot briskly, mostly while talking to myself, or singing a song, but I think that can be accommodated.
Even if people look at me like I'm crazy.
It continued to be odd as he just sat there, not doing anything, but blaring music next to us. I had no idea what the music even was. Jazz? Salsa? Fusion Jalzza? He just sat there.