It's still up to men to be the initiators of all things relationshipy or romantic, right?

Be the first to ask someone out.

Be the one to come up with the ideas.

Initiate intimacy.

But the general message across the board is, don't assume a woman wants you to, so if you do initiate, and she isn't into it, then you're a bad person for trying.

The caveat of the "if she isn't into it" part is the general shallowness that pervades all of humanity. Just about everyone bases those initial feelings, and judgments on looks. So for someone who looks like me, this day and age, I most likely would be seen as an unwelcomed advancer in almost all scenarios. Which would leave me with online dating, where someone can get to know me before seeing me I guess....

Awesome.

Not that I'm concerned right now. But the direction we're all moving in is a bit frightening....